India Knight
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Lucky old Kate Middleton, reportedly dumped by Prince William — or lucky old Prince William, reportedly dumped by Kate Middleton.
They had looked happy and well suited and dumpage is never nice, but in this instance we could make an exception and be pleased that both these young people might now get a chance to do normal young people things instead of walking around in tweeds in their mid-twenties, looking as though they’d been married for 30 years and were looking forward to putting their feet up with a nice cup of tea and an Inspector Morse repeat.
One of the alleged reasons for the break-up, according to “friends” quoted in The Sun, is that William, an officer in the Blues and Royals, has embraced army life and prefers going out drinking with his army mates in Dorset to driving back to London to see Middleton. Plenty of 24-year-old men view the lure of the pub and male companionship in the same way; this seems the first age-appropriate thing that William has done in a while and it rather gladdens the heart.
The second alleged reason is that William feels that getting engaged was the next logical step in the relationship, but that he is too young for such a course of action; again, you get the feeling that he may actually be thinking of ways to live a relatively “ordinary” life and that this dumpage is, its own way, a small bid for all kinds of freedom.
I feel sorry for William, for all of the obvious reasons, but also because we seem so keen on prematurely ageing him, perhaps because his brother Harry is such a “normal” (in the circs) young man, for ever stumbling out of nightclubs looking a bit grumpy and a bit the worse for wear — but also looking carefree and possessed of an enviable (to his brother, at least) “I’ll do what I feel like doing, thanks” swagger.
Because of what happened to their mother, we are anxious for them to appear happy and well adjusted at all times. So if Harry is going to slouch about looking slightly wild and behaving just like other men his age (that is, occasionally dubiously), it is essential for the public to feel that William appears “mature” and serene. Which he does.
However, there are limits and marrying ludicrously young is one of them. He and Middleton dated for a little more than four years — the relationship began when they were at university and practically children — and although there was never any hint of an engagement, Woolworths commissioned a range of royal wedding china and the tabloid newspapers seemed certain they would marry.
(Oddly, I don’t think the public particularly did. I can’t be alone in not feeling overly preoccupied with Middleton, who is very pretty, other than to notice that she managed to make even the most on-trend, playful clothes from Topshop look like they came from an emporium for sturdy matrons. Maybe she could undo a button every now and then from now on and sometimes forget to brush her hair.)
As for William, robbed of his mother and robbed of his privacy, it seems a bit much to ask for him to be also robbed of his youth — although of course this break-up has also robbed him of a confidante and of female companionship.
According to The Sun, which broke the story yesterday, the couple found it “impossible” to cope with the “extraordinary pressures” on their relationship. I’m sure that’s true — Middleton earlier this month settled a harassment complaint over a close-up photograph of her sitting on a bus and William has asked for the paparazzi to let her be.
In 2005 her lawyers contacted newspaper editors and asked them to leave her alone, saying that photographers had followed her almost every day and night since she left university. It’s sometimes said that Middleton had a photograph of William on her wall when she was growing up; the phrase “be careful what you wish for” seems appropriate here.
The question is, what now? Is there any woman alive who could put up with the grossly intrusive, incessant scrutiny that came to plague Middleton? Times have moved on and we are all too familiar with the story of how the young, virginal, spectacularly naive Diana Spencer was cast as a sacrificial lamb.
We wouldn’t be able to stomach a repeat — but the alternative is finding a girlfriend so hard-nosed that she can endure, and even enjoy, the degree of intrusion that comes with the territory; unfortunately, such a woman is never going to be a crowd-pleaser (and besides, Jordan’s already taken). Unless, of course, she is a celebrity in her own right. This does seem to be the way forward: I don’t think there’s any nice girl in the home counties who could bear the attention without being driven insane.
Poor old royals. If they wielded any power, they could carouse about like Charles II and nobody would mind. If they were merely obscenely rich, they could carouse about like obscenely rich people do and nobody would mind much either, or ever find out. If they had gone out of their way to become famous, they could scoot about behaving badly and having tons of girlfriends and we’d probably rather love them for it.
But there they are, powerless, rich, purposeless, famous by default, hounded by the press — and there’s absolutely nothing in it for them except the sense that they are doing their “duty” to a largely apathetic public. Really, it’s not the kind of existence you would wish on your worst enemy, let alone on two affable-seeming young men who presumably wish they could run about in peace having a laugh before total hair-loss sets in. I wish they would; I don’t think anyone would begrudge them it.
It’s hard not to speculate on the mood chez Middleton this morning. Her parents, Carole and Michael, run a mail-order business supplying children’s party goods; surreally, it must have occurred to them more than once that their daughter looked like she might end up being Queen of England. But the days when all little girls dreamt of becoming royalty are long past: the lustre wore off “the Firm” some time ago and even little girls have stopped believing entirely in fairy-tale endings.
Middleton, whatever her other emotions, must surely also be breathing a sigh of relief at having been handed her life back, to do with as she chooses, privately and without scrutiny. The real happy ending would occur if the same could be said of her ex-boyfriend.
I’m not holding my breath but in this day and age it oughtn’t, surely, be completely outside the realms of possibility.

India Knight was born in 1965. She lives in London with her three children, writes a weekly column for The Sunday Times, and a weblog, Isn't She Talking Yet?, on bringing up a child with special needs. She has also written two novels, My Life on a Plate and Don't You Want Me?
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I was very distressed to read about Laura Mallins in the Sun Times colour supplemt ' A Life in the Day' dated 15/4/07. I would like to make a donation for her and her mother. Has a fund been set up? Please advise
Jenny Doogan, Dromore, N. Ireland
18/04/07
Poor Catherine will have to face the real world now-instead of waiting around for H.R.H, she needs to find a proper job and she is AN ORDINARY GIRL-wake up Catherine-be responsible for your life rather than relying on special treatment-other graduates have to slog hard to clear their debts,worry about paying rent/expenses. William has done the right thing to get shot of her.
R. Cairns, Neston Cheshire,
so nice but dim prefers the company of strapping lads in uniform to that of Kate? big deal! we need someone to sort out that almighty mess caused by his gran's army down in the gulf anyway, so; off you go and best of luck!
tilovsky, London, U.K.
I don't think my life would be any worse, or even diferent if the whole Royal family disappeared tomorrow.
Jordan, York, UK
Prince William is a debonair, nice-looking and a smart man, so it is possible that many ladies will want to pick him up now that he is free. I am a European monarchist, so it is my hope that one day he will marry a young lady of the present or former European dynasties, as his grand mother did, and most of the Kings and Queens of England, it doesnt matter if the candidate could be protestant, catholic, if he is truly in love with her or just a young British lady who deserves to be your Queen. However, the Parliament must revoke immediately the incredibly outrageous Settlement Act of 1701, on the grounds that it evidently clashes with the Human Rights Act and should be reinterpreted or removed from the statute book. There is no doubt that the Act of Settlement 1701 affects the European Convention on Human Rights, which became part of UK law when the Human Rights Act came into force in 2000
Louis A. F. v. Wetzler, Buenos Aires, Argentina
First love is very strong. William may come to regret his decision and might come back only to find Kate to be less enthusiastic once she has got over the heartbreak.
Ian, ballymoney,
i too congratulate kate....my Lord, that is the LAST family anyone in their right mind would want to marry into.
dana-kay, victoria, canada
I married at 21 and still am, to the same man, you can learn to grow up together, it takes a certain type of woman to marry into the forces, she must like her own company and have a career of her own. I wish them both the best and hope that Wil can enjoy his freedom as long as possible. The 'firm' is too claustraphobic for anybody other than those who want it all, like Camilla, a virtual money/fame grabber who was envious of anyone who seemed to grab charlie boy, they deserve each other, hope the boys are like their mother.
Clare, Vendee, France
Why does Knight have to refer to Middleton all the time as they were both in a boys public school?
John Webster, dunstable,
Congratulations Kate on your good fortune. Why would anyone in their right mind want to marry in that family ?
Harold, Poynton, Cheshire
I agree with India, to have a lasting happy marriage one shouldn't marry until 31/32 least. Sorry but life is too good to settle down before that, even at that age people enjoy their lifes to the full before babies at 34/35/36.
anna, london, uk
Everybodys Gods bless them both. Let us pray in all directions that William will tell Daddy Horrible and Mummy that he has accepted another job than the one including acting like Pinocchio for an indifferent audience, And send that Ms. Middleton my way, I have a couple of Mai tais ready!
Michael Harding
Austin, Texas.
michael harding, austin, texas, USA
I doubt if there are many modern women who would contemplate marrying a royal with all its terrible drawbacks. Kate most probably wants a career and a chance to see the world not be locked up with a rather dowdy stiff family. She may also have been very concerned about the pressure on her family and the dreadful concerns about wether the in-laws would get on. Smart women and Chelsey will follow her very quickly. There are a lot of people with big houses a bit of money, that no longer impresses.
Kieran, Tokyo, Japan
Have to ask - at what age did you marry? 24/25 is young but LUDICROUSLY young? Hello? I would prefer women marrying sooner rather than later and having babies sooner rather than later than have to pay up for all their fertility treatment when they realise babies don't always come that easy after age 30, 35...
Danielle, London, UK
Ms, Middleton hounded by the press? COME ON! Her flat opens directly onto the street so that her every move is followed and monitored. If all involved were so worried about this intrusion they would have moved the woman into a high-rise apartment, ensuring privacy as she left everyday via elevator to a private garage & her vehicle and not running down the street being chased by the press. She loved the attention!
Larry White, Decatur, Illinois - USA
William is no cad, he is simply a young man who has recognised that there is far more to be experienced in life than getting married at what is these days a very young age.
It's not a question of maturity, but one of opportunity. His later years will be marked by duty to the Monarchy, something which he did not ask for and which will restrict him in ways most people could not bare.
This period in his life is about relative freedom, exploration and personal growth and he has recognised that marriage, at this point, is not for him.
No Adrian of Tonbridge, William is no cad, but rather a young man who has had the courage to live life on his terms instead of someone elses - good luck to him!
Andrew Murray, London, UK
I don't think there's any mystery about why they split up - they don't love each other in the 'till death us do part' way any more. This romance began at university and while of course some people meet their future spouse at uni I'm sure there are many more who have their first serious relationship at that time in their lives but who then move on. Living away from home for the first time isn't easy and many young couples end up living together in a bid to recreate a 'family' unit. Not all young people want to go out with someone new every night, they prefer to have someone special in their life, but when they get older and are more self-reliant these romances often die a natural death. William was probably glad to have a pretty girl whom he could confide in in his life at that time, but life changes and so do people's feelings. He's older now, has responsibilities that come with his job and probably feels he wants freedom in other areas of his life. I hope they both go on to be happy.
Ella, Bristol, UK
I breath a sigh of relief for Kate as I can't think of any person that has married into that family being truly happy.
Now Kate has a chance of having a truly happy marriage and children one day.
Vera Barnes, Paraparaumu, New Zealand.
William did Kate a great kindness and to himself: Kate will be forgotten eventually but poor William, whoever he will be with, will get hounded by the press once again. The press is waiting. It is all big business for the mags and papers. Just you wait.
Helen, London,
Since when has twenty-four or twenty-five been too young to get married? For Kate at least this is the ideal time. If she leaves it till she is 30+ the old biological time-bomb will be ticking. William also doesn't need to 'build a nest'. He is the son of a multi-millionaire and heir to the best title in the country. So why not get married now? Unless, of course, behind those smiles he is really a cad.
Adrian Gilbert, Tonbridge, England
What is there to feel sorry fror? Kate Middleton has conducted herself as nothing less that a wanna-be Queen in waiting. She hasnt done very much since leaving university and even her expensive Chelsea flat was bought for her by her parents. For someone who supposedly works, she seems to spend more time shopping, vacationing and partying into the wee hours of the morning that normal people would have time, stamina or money for. I wouldnt have a job if I was constantly being papped falling out of Boujis and other clubs...and spending more time doing anything other than going to work every day...
Lisa, London,
I agree, hard-nosed and thick-skinned is absolutely the way to go. Diana is not the only example. Take even a good, smart, level-headed girl like Princess Masako of the Japanese royals, and she proves that just a smidgen of sensitivity is a recipe for catastrophe. Modern princesses need to be about as sensitive and sweet-natured as a hippopotamus!
Laura, Boston, USA
My guess is that Kate won't have her life back for quite some time.
Kim Righetti, Upland, Calif. USA
"Maybe she could .... sometimes forget to brush her hair."
I just don't get this fashion, from outside the UK it looks so stupid.
Alice, Moscow,