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This has been a week dominated by murder and children. It began with a furore and fury over the future of Learco Chindamo, who as a 15-year-old gang member stabbed Philip Lawrence to death outside his school in 1995, and it ends with the immense collective grief felt for the parents of Rhys Jones, an 11-year-old boy shot dead while playing football. He was almost certainly killed by a child of a similar age to Chindamo when he committed his crime. Children killing adults is an appalling enough event. Children killing children in this callous fashion is yet more numbing still.
Politicians should be at the forefront of the national conversation that follows such atrocities and not embarrassed on the sidelines. The moment that the death of a child in circumstances such as these is deemed so commonplace that it is not the catalyst for comment is the occasion when a country has lost the struggle against its demons. In a speech yesterday David Cameron sought to place the tragedy of the Jones family in a broader context, that of his claim that Britain has a “broken society” in the same way that 30 years ago it had a broken economy. The comparison is superficially attractive. Yet it is too sweeping, encompassing more of the community than the facts on the ground suggests is valid. Stagflation in the 1970s and youth culture today are different in character. The questions that now have to be addressed are even more complicated.
On one aspect, at least, Mr Cameron and his partisan opponents are in complete agreement. The Conservative leader referred to “fathers who run away from their responsibilities, who don’t stick around to give their sons the discipline they need”. Earlier this week Jack Straw, the Justice Secretary, referred similarly to a crisis of fatherlessness in certain places, depriving the sons left behind not simply of figures of authority but also of adult male role models of any form to emulate.
Whether it be council estates at home or failed states abroad, societies dominated by teenaged boys, unrestrained by fathers, are invariably dangerous locations. Gangs rapidly take the place of the orthodox family unit. Loyalties to these institutions undermine traditional respect and values. The ability to generate fear in others becomes a prized social asset. Not only do other young men want to avoid young men but so also do adults of all ages and those bodies, such as the police, that are meant to be a community’s armour. Society loses its self-confidence and with that the ties which bind it together. There are manifestly enclaves in Britain where this has happened.
To concede this is not, though, to admit that society as a whole is “broken”. Not all poor estates have been so afflicted, nor is the damage associated with fatherlessness limited to black rather than white families, or exclusively to working-class ones. It would be more accurate to refer to fractured societies, not a broken society. The dilemma, nonetheless, is that no one has a specific policy solution for compelling or inspiring fathers either to remain with, or exercise a positive influence over, their sons. In truth, there is probably no system of either tax inducements or financial sanctions that can make fathers who have abandoned interest in sons behave in the manner that others would want them to do.
This is not a fatalistic assessment. Attitudes to fatherhood did not change for the worse because of past political activities and they are capable of changing for the better for reasons other than a programme constructed in Whitehall. To an extent, fractures will heal naturally if allowed the opportunity. Mr Cameron and Mr Straw might both have been vague but by speaking out they encourage others to talk about these issues.
But the most effective encouragement for this has to come through schools and not the House of Commons. It requires a remorseless concentration on those in the bottom tenth in the GCSE results in recent years — individuals who are often paying an academic as well as a social price for the absence of their fathers. Children cannot and certainly should never be “nationalised” but the gang and its mentality cannot be the only alternative to the family. Society has not disappeared in the most deprived areas of Britain. Yet it is for its members to choose to reactivate themselves.
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Amazing how men's rights and authority have evaporated into thin air. We are not allowed to head our homes. We are not allowed to lead our families. We are not allowed to serve as the authority or disciplinarian in the home. The family is the basic building block of society. When you destroy the family, you can rule society without any opposition. We need to be aware.
Fascist Patriot, Northridge, California
Its wrong to describe Britain's fatherless families as a failure. Here are some feminists who view the collapse as necessary!
"In order to raise children with equality, we must take them away from families and communally raise them." (Dr. Mary Jo Bane, assistant professor of education at Wellesley College and associate director of the school's Center for Research on Woman) OR
"The end of the institution of marriage is a necessary condition for the liberation of women. Therefore it is important for us to encourage women to leave their husbands and not to live individually with men... All of history must be re-written in terms of oppression of women. We must go back to ancient female religions like witchcraft." ("The Declaration of Feminism," November 1971).
A housing estate run by single women reminds me of chimpanzees in the wild, with a few dominant females, a dominant male and gangs of male juveniles fighting and mating.
Lets call it Britain's chimp matriarchy!
Stephen, London,
So more platitudes but no realisation of the real problem - yup its time to bash the men again. these people just do not get it. what do they think F4J IS all about ? Have the politicians done anything about the injustices in family law ? No - still having closed courts - because open courts would give the game away. Men are routinely excluded from their childrens lives - purely and simply because the state supports the women who expel the Dads from their childrens lives. they acknowledge the problem - but then claim that it is a difficult issue because punishing a mother - punishes the children. They accept the domestic violence rubbish - MEN are now guilty (in family law) even if they are aquitted in court. the fact is that if the 'welfare & child support' - state as paternal parent - farse was demolished - the 75% or so of divorces initiated by women would fall dramatically, permit the Dads to remain in their childrens lives. It would also dry up the gravy train. Wont happen !
Dave M, Bristol, UK
Yes, the same old story: it's all the fault of those terrible fathers who somehow force women to have children (despite having absolutely no reproductive rights whatsoever) and then walk out on them because they are just bad, bad people.
No mention of men tricked or duped into becoming dads against their will; no mention of men who don't even know they are fathers; and no mention of men driven out of their children's lives by vindictive women and biased family courts.
Once a woman gets access to a man's sperm, regardless of how she does it, she is then totally in control of whether she wants to have a baby or not, and whether the man whose sperm she has taken gets to be a dad or not. HER choice, 100%; not his. So how about holding those accountable who actually have the means to ensure whether their children have a father or not - i.e. women? Or are we so drugged with the notion that the female of the species can never do any wrong, that we refuse to see the truth?
paul parmenter, Norfolk, UK
" Mr Cameron and Mr Straw might both have been vague but by speaking out they encourage others to talk about these issues."
Oh, really? How very odd that even The Times seems not to have noticed that millions of people HAVE been discussing this very issue for decades.
They have demanded, they have begged, they have pleaded for governments to damned well stop yakking about the problem, and get up and so something about it : all to no avail.
And, once more the whole problem can safely be laid at the door of rogue fathers, who shuck off responsibility to their sons. As if there are no women in Britain who deliberately, and persistently deny their estranged husbands any influence whatever over their sons, upbringing.
A woman can consistently flout court orders to permit the father access to his children with absolute impunity, while the father is stigmatised, both legally and financially as an " absent father" What pray, do Messrs Straw and Cameron propose to do about this?
Terry Flower, Periana, Spain
What nonsense is written about absent fathers. Each government coming to power moans and wrings its hands over the latest reported behaviour of a few warped teenagers, despite consistently undermining the role of fathers. Until three years ago, fathers of children born outside of marriage did not get parental responsibility automatically and had no right to say anything about a child's life. Women could easily throw them aside, then demand that the CSA thugs chase them for child support payments, while claiming tens of thousands of pounds in housing benefits. Family Courts sit in secrecy and compel many fathers to see their children for a few hours a month, if at all, and in many cases even that brief contact is begrudged by the women. Many fathers eventually lose all contact with their children after years of frustration and disappointment, hounded for money by the CSA and mistrustful of all women. Have people forgotten the Father 4 Justice protests so quickly?
Jyotin, George town, Cayman Islands
"Fathers who run away from their responsibilities"?
Yet more of the demonisation and denigration of men that we have come to expect from politicians pandering to a politically correct agenda, and the media promoting a man-hating feminist ideology.
There may be enclaves within society where a matriarchy has been established for some time - but is that necessarily the fault of the men? Are they "absent", or have they been excluded?
Meanwhile, in mainstream society, feminism is assiduously seeking the same outcome - the marginalisation of men in general and fathers in particular. Many influences are being brought to bear by cultural commissars of the feminist Gulag, but all you need to do is look at the way in which men are shafted by the divorce industry and the secret Family Courts.
Fathers are not running away, they are being excluded by feminist ideology. It is as simple as that.
Chris, Wokingham, Berkshire
For decades we have been told that men are not needed , that it is better to have no father than a bad father (the unspoken completion of the statement being that all men are bad), that all men are rapists etc. It is disappointing now to learn that men are guilty here too.
Women and the State must make up their minds, either men/ fathers are worthwhile or not. If we are then we need a better deal in family law. If not then Mr. Cameron's views are wrong and we should not be attacked here too.
I am confident that women can raise boys to be decent. After all we know that women are faultless and wonderful.
David Morrison, Airdrie, UK