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Sir, As an Anglican, I am dismayed by what the Rev Dr Peter Mullen writes about homosexual people (“Beware the dark side of the new moral consensus”, Jan 19).
After the failure of the Lambeth Conference 1998 to listen properly to the life experiences of a delegation of gay Christians, a process was established — the “Listening Process” — whereby, during the years leading up to Lambeth 2008, there would be opportunities, across the communion, for gay people to tell their life experiences and to be listened to courteously: that “process” to be carefully monitored and reported upon.
It seems quite extraordinary that, after such a decade, the Rev Dr Mullen, referring to gay people, writes only of “the love which once dare not speak its name shrieking at us, in high camp, from decorated floats along the high street”. Perhaps he has not listened to the quiet voices of the many gay clergy and lay people who work along side him in ministry. I doubt that they would flaunt their sexuality on the high street or anywhere else.
It is a sad truth that too many gay people spend years of isolation within the closet, fearful of the consequences of coming out. Those who do emerge often need specialised support to overcome the damage to their lives and wellbeing caused by ignorance, prejudice and sometimes bullying encountered daily within school, workplace and on the street. Some marry to escape the hostility. Others, unable to withstand the strain of loneliness and fear, take their own life.
People, especially those influential within faith groups, should think long and hard about the negative effects that their words can have on the lives of gay people and on the lives of those in the families to which they belong. They might think also about the dangers of generalisations.
Christine Holt
Bury, Lancs
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Christine - Well done. A calm and measured response amid hysteria which, as it happens, is also characteristic in my experience of the conduct of homosexual clergy. I am invariably moved by the dignity and grace with which my honosexual brothers and sisters in ordained ministry and among the laity bear the bile and casual prejudice that is directed at them. I would add that far too many heterosexual clergy act as if this oppression, every bit as nasty as the Church's racisms of the past, is nothing to do with them. The time is long overdue for straights to stand in the gays' corner - I hope we will at Lambeth.
The Rev'd George Pitcher
St Bride's,Fleet Street, London
George Pitcher, London, UK
It is sad that comments are made like this. Dr Mullins is silly to get all uptight about this issue. Unfortunately for him people cannot help who they fall in love with. He fell for his wife, wonderful but many men fall for men and women for women.
It is who they are attracted too!
Yes Religion should issue commands at people, it should encourage thought about issues mot make rhetorical statements.
Jem you may have a Gay and Religious best friend because they may be one in the same thing!
Steven, Buckhurst Hill,
For centuries faith groups have promoted marriage by only condoning sexual relations after marriage and therefore procreation, which subsequently increased their âflockâ, and justifying it as the consummation of love Theologians today therefore fail to distinguish between love and sex. As clearly proved by your correspondent (Christine Holt, Bury, Lancs) this leads to the simple denigration of the religious position regarding homosexuals. The sexual orientation of an individual is one issue. Love is a different issue. A man can love his mother, sister, daughter and his dog but to have sexual relations with any of them would be judged unacceptable to the vast majority of the population, gay or otherwise. Until religions accept that sex and love are very different it will continue to be pilloried by those who seek to justify their actions as an expression of love rather than their sexual orientation.
Paul Gilbert, Solihull,
I could have a gay best friend. I could never have a religious best friend.
jem, london, uk
People writing to the Times should certainly think about the words that they use.
It is far less ambiguous to use homosexual as a description rather than gay.
It is far less ambiguous to use terms such adverse or unpleasant, rather than negative.
Paul , cheshire, england
The sad truth is that religious people of all creeds feel themselves competent to criticise others. What I do is none of your damned business, not even if I belong to your religion. Deal with all that wood in your own eyes and your own brain and get out of my life!
Ross, Bristol,