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Sir, I was widowed last year, and it is only now that I’m starting to get my life together. The response of the various government and local authority departments in handling all the paperwork involved has been very patchy.
Registrars: excellent, very sympathetic and efficient; Work and Pensions: bereavement allowance came through with a few hiccups, but not too difficult; Premium Bonds: system worked but could have been better; council tax: this was reduced automatically on signing a form by St Edmundsbury — totally painless; DVLA: its online systems worked well; winter fuel payment: found difficult to claim and missed it for last year.
The private sector wasn’t that much better, with some companies having people whose sole job appeared to be to deal with bereavement faring much better than those that didn’t. Some wanted death certificates, some accepted faxed copies and others took my word.
We need a lot more joined-up thinking in this important area, as, with nearly a million deaths in the UK every year, it would surely help the bereavement process for those left behind if every company, organisation, government department and authority were automatically notified. After all, if St Edmundsbury can do it here in supposedly sleepy Suffolk, then surely everyone else can.
James Miller
Newmarket, Suffolk
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Previous opinions match my experience in winding up an aunt's estate a few years ago.
If you want to make bereavement easier for your family, there is something to be said for not just making a clear will, but trying to simplify your affairs. If you have lots of small shareholdings and tiny savings accounts, some consolidation might be in order. Closing a savings or bank account with £50 in it involves as much work as one with £5,000.
Geoffrey Negus, Solihull, England
James Miller (letters 16 April) is absolutely correct regarding the different ways institutions deal with the reporting of death. Having lost my father last year I have had to deal with a wide range of organisations - some have been excellent, others painfully inefficient or insensitive. For example one firm of Company Registrars kept on asking to speak to the 'registered shareholder' even though I was trying to inform them that he had passed away, and another has seen an official copy of the Grant of Probate at least 10 times as they always refuse to take any action with out it - most, of course, only require to see it once.
As James Miller suggests some consistency - a code of conduct perhaps - would be welcome.
Giles Falconer, Sleaford, Lincolnshire
As my late father's executor, I found the most challenging body - actually, I mean bloody-minded and bureaucratic to the point of offensiveness - was the company administering the few shares he bequeathed.
Not only did they make their forms impenetrable, they gave incorrect information about how to complete them, demanded repeated submissions, took months to carry out a simple transfer, and finally sent me someone else's cheque.
I refrain from mentioning the name not to spare their blushes, but to save The Times's lawyers any discomfort.
Mr Miller has my loud and vocal support.
Stephen Pape, Ashford, Kent
Two years after the death of my Father-in-Law, his name suddenly reappeared on my Mother-In-Law's Abbey bank statements. The family were shocked and angry, my Mother-in-law very distressed. As the person who had successfully arranged all the paperwork 2 years before, I wrote to Abbey's Bereavement Department to ask them what on earth they had done. I received the replay including condolences on our recent loss and the very sniffy comment that this had been a joint account but they had now changed it to a sole name account to reflect recent events. So the existence of a dedicated department quarantees neither efficiency, sensitivity nor even staff who bother to read letters. This was, unfortunately, just the beginning of Abbey's appalling treatment of my Mother-in-Law but that is for a different thread.
Tricia Walker, Wrexham,