Look, some sexual partners you click with, others you don't. It's like playing music with people. It doesn't matter how "talented" you are. If you don't "click" then it will never be as good as with someone you do. Following a manual may help but I think someone will always be dissatisfied

David, London,

If all women acted like men naturally do (in dating and sex) all men sleeping with them would realize that they do not need to complain about this kind of article. There are way more articles addressed to women about pleasing when men already always get positive endings to sex!

Nathalia, Calgary,

I just wished women were as good in bed as society assumes they are. Th article certainly good and common tips for men. But indeed women need to give effective foreplay and attention to their partners as well. And it is not a given that A - women take longer to orgasm than men.

Daniel, Brisbane, Australia

the act of sex is naturally geared towards the man's pleasure rather than the woman's because a) women take longer than men to orgasm and b) sex stops when the man is finished... work it out. the article's just trying to make it a bit more equal. I pity the girlfriends of the defensive men above.

Anya, Glasgow, Scotland

to i find candels and strawberrys go a long way and always shave before sex girls hate nothing more than ruff man but every one is diffrent and mabey the most important thing is fresh sheats and a clean room that is smelling good .also it is good to make the lady breakfast

sam, wirrial, england

Re: Howard, Manchester

This article is 20 top sex tips for men; I assure you, publications such as Cosmopolitan etc present sex tips for the other gender. A list like this will be biased in favour of teaching men how to please, as it's what it sets out to do.

Stephanie, London,

When starting over, putting yourself back on the market, filling the dents and getting a quick spray; teeth scaled and polished should he high on the list. Presupposing your aim is securing girl friend and not simply getting laid. Doesn’t this sometimes feel like driving from London to Glasgow via Galway?

Andrew Milner, Karuizawa, Japan

How did it get to the stage where women's needs were paramount and males were simply there to provide? It takes two to tango - I'll scratch your back, you scratch mine.

Howard, Manchester,

Doea the London Times have advice on Gay dating, it is impossible to find that kind of advice here in the conservative Bible belt of America, lol.

Joshua, Marengo, United States

I'm getting frequently tired of these women 'sexpert' journalists telling men how they should have sex. You may notice, 90% of this is for 'her' pleasure, and to be quite frank it takes all of the stimulation out of Sexual Intercourse for a man. Remember, the pleasure should be for *both* partners.

Paddy, Cambs, UK

If your partner loves you, they wouldn't care about your bodily functions, I'm not saying don't have a wash.
And I understand that us girls should come before the guy does as they have to wait a good 10mins in between each orgasm, but that doesn't make you a come machine.
Just enjoy the positions!

Danielle, Golborne,

i think this is great, my partner always tells me i have a great body but i always turn the lights off and just leave the lamo or the tele on, im so self consious about my body, some great tips thanks.

jodie, doncaster,

Basically, it sounds like these two women believe that every man whose read any Anais Nin is an bloody good lover.

Alex Spiers, London,

Ugh. Sex tips for girlyboys. How depressing.

Here's a tip that works. Stop worrying about whether she's enjoying it or not. Who cares anyway? Just do whatever you fancy and dump her if she complains.

Remember men, your pleasure is more important than her's.

Redcliffe, London,

Hey My name is Luke from the UK and most lads over here just think that women are just for sex and thats it and i hate it when my girly friends come up to me crying their eyes out saying that their boyfriends have broke up with them no more than a day after sex! it makes me sick! this article should be published all over the world to give the arrogant men in this world a few tips, oh and there are many things in this article that are true but there are also a few missing like...sex amongst rose petals with rose scented candles going i loved it and so did the Girl! and another thing is music have some nice slow music on and make sex as romantic as you can. There are some days where you want to really spice it up and if the girl is up for it then great as it can be exciting in a relationship i belive that the men should repect the women as much as they can without letting the girl rule their lives.

I hope this has been a little help to some people

I may add to it every now and then

Luke Horobin, Nuneaton, England, UK

I think this is sooo true , I hate it when my mans breath stinks or when he grabs my head when i am below , the writer who wrote this is faboulus i love you for telling these men that it is not all about sex ya sure its great but i hate it when they rush right into sex we women need time to feel sexy or ready to go as i say you need to preheat the oven before you stick the turcky in. I love to be caressed and kissed dont get me wrong qukie sex is fine if i am in the mood other than that you need to be clean and fresh women dont get turned on by the grossness of mens sweat or smells down there.Come on men get with the program us women spend hours or minutes getting all pamperd to look good and smell good for you men its time you started doing the same for s. You wouldnt want us women to be stinky or have food in our teeth or worse smell yesterdays work out sweat like if we do it for you atleast have the brains to do it for us.

Dani, Botwood, newfoundland

i say that even though thewhole bath and teeth thing matter you said ur self doc that it dosent matter in the end they want the guy inside and nothing ese should matter but men should also spend more time complmentng their women and cuddelin more then tryin to get em in bed cuz they love the lil things the most

Jake, Ohio, U.S.A.

yea its pretty funny that its mostly very defensive men commenting.... as a woman, I can tell you, that this is NOT all rubbish... its very much true !~ congratualations on the writer or this article.. its nice to know that there is at least one man out there that has taken the time to learn about us women, as I am quite aware, that is NOT an easy task!

Danielle, Atlantic Provinces, Canada

get a life people. clean teeth n a bath dont help sex. its the sex itself. i found my girlfriend on this site because she wanted to impress me. what she didnt understand was that she impressed me. its not the sex that counts. its the passion that goes into it. why sleep with someone if you dont like them. if you think that the size of your penis is a problem or you are not very good in that department, stop worrying. when she met you she didnt no if your 4" or 8". she wants the guy she met,not a sex god

misses her, london, england

Hey am convinced wth jamie....gosh! we rnt sex machines which is automatomed to meet up women orgasm requirements....cm on! tk a break....

Shikhar, Delhi, India

Interesting that all the comments are from men who appear to be on the defensive.
Great article, someone knows women very well

JULIE, Portsmouth, UK

Actually, i know many male friend, who the simple reason he cant entertain his ladies is because of some of these points. Some men do need to be pointed out that before dates, baths and teeth brushing are nesessery, no matter how much of a rush your in. Yes this, 'button' theory might not apply to some women, but personally it does- if you are comfortable enough with someone, or close enough to them, it shouldnt matter that much. Especially if they offer other things in return such as other points mentioned here, complimenting your partner etc.
Sometimes, however trivial, the male needs to be reminded.

Charlie Simp, Ricky, England

orgasm - always ladies first!

oh please. women, get over yourself. women always want the biggest and longest orgasm ever. men have no choice. it's quick and local to one part of the body only.

if you force your man to wait for you do you realise what you're doing to the man. you're turning him into an orgasm machine rather than someone who is making love. instead of having fun, spontaneous and fulfilling sex he is just trying to push buttons in the right order for the right amount of time until it's "his turn". its like a computer game! please! that's rubbish!

jamie, london,

i reckon that it is all a load of crap

JASON the IT technician, coventry, england

I tend to agree...what happened to the elements of style, presentation & surprise... based upon a little 'subtle' research on the telephone beforehand...that perfect location, that wonderful meal.. Working on having fun whilst trying to understand and get to know who she is and what she likes (in a humorous, light-hearted way, without trying too hard!) prior to getting physical, is surely more important than making sure your bits havn't dropped off before grabbing the cab ..would anyone seriously consider dating whilst aware they had an infection, let alone try having sex..?

A Batchelor, Norwich, England

Amen about wanting more than a button.

Di Willi, London, England

Re: "Women may prefer a medium-size but thick penis but, if a lover is attentive, even if offering a button rather than a baton, it won’t matter. "

Male myth, I'm afraid, chaps. I don't know a single female who would agree with the "button" theory that the male doctor puts forward here.

jane, london, england

Everyone in any way connected with this piece should feel thoroughly ashamed of themselves. Never has so much of the bleeding obvious been stated in one place before in the course of pointless publishing. Have a bath! Clean your teeth! Is that really the best you can do?

MDHinton, Sieradz, Poland