I love my husband and have vowed to look after him. I also challenge him and we have a good laugh together. All it takes is to meet a good person, and put away your selfishness for just long enough to figure out that married life can be really enjoyable! Why prevaricate so much?

Alba, Southampton,

Kash asks a pertinent question. My view is women feel threatened by bachelours because they seek to maintain independence outside of the accepted relationship norm of marriage and kids. The idea that i guy can take or leave a relationship without at any point declaring that fact is a threat.

Joe, london, London

Mid forties, never married, wonderful girlfriend at an appropriate distance to keep the relationship healthy. Tell me: what's not to love about the single life? I understand that happy, unattached men may be threatening to some but who cares? My life is good.

Bram, Amsterdam, Netherlands

Interesting how nobody mentions love at any point here. Otherwise whats the point?

Tom, London,

The majority of women in western countries simply are not good choices for marriage. Any man who values his happiness and sanity rightfully avoids them. Then there's the biased laws and court systems set against men. Too much risk, no reward.

Vincent, SF Bay Area, USA

And my friends wonder why I don't date anymore! I never cease to be amazed and appalled at all the virulent misogyny out there. Don't worry, fellas, you're perfectly safe in your bachelorhood, as no self-respecting woman would look at any of ye twice.

Noreen, London, U.K.

I agree with Margot - but divorced ONCE, more than that can be a wee bit worrying

sarah, france, france

What nonsense. Some people, men or women, are simply perfectly happy being alone and are not mentally ill, porn addicts or alcoholics. There is absolutely no reason to make them outcasts because of it. Respect people's choices instead.

Lily , London,

Whenever I meet single men around my age (late 30s) they all seem too eager to want a long term relationship for it's own sake rather than get to know another person and see where it leads. I am single but those I meet either want a wife or just sex ; no middle ground.

Heather, Bradford on Avon, Wiltshire

Why are women bitter towards men whose lives are fulfilled by being bachelors?

Kash, London,

Guyland written by a self proclaimed feminist proposes neo-victorinism- that is rich. And to the contrary, recent studies show the most unhappy men are divorced, and single men's happiness has equalled or eclipsed their married chums. It is a commentary on the treatment of men in the west.

Barton, Duluth, MN

Well what do you expect with widespread misandry?The social establishment dictated by gender feminism sought a war on men that they really want no part of, and it affords them options to choose their own path. Men going there own way (MGTOW). The Marriage Strike is belittled which just reinforces it

Arianne, New York, USA

No pity necessary, studies of single, undivorced men back that up. I consciously choose to be single, and it does in part reflect my rejection of the mass culture of male bashing and denigration of men. The author, an avowed feminist, is threatened by men who make a choice to live independent lives

Ruud, Rotterdam, NL

Being a single woman who earns her own living (no career just work) and has no desire for children, I worry about a potential husband taking half of what has taken so hard to save. Nevertheless, it'd be nice to have a man to share life with - to cook for, go out with and cuddle up to.. and more.

Tina Jones, Dusseldorf, Germany

... but when you see the comments from men in this newspaper, I realise that I will be alone for the rest of my life. Too much nastiness out there.

Tina Jones, Dusseldorf, Germany

Reality check: Single parent families by the mass is a proven social disaster. The two parent family by the mass is a proven social building block of a successful tribe, town, nation. It is difficult at best for a single parent to properly raise children and in the end, children and society lose.

Steve Barr, Hillsdale, USA

Recent studies have shown that single men live as long as the one tied to the ball and chain..

Being a single male, I can tell you that there is no advantage to a male to be married..

As one of the other comments made, Going through life trying to keep a female happy is an effort in futility.

Christian J., Melbourne,

Reality check: Women (in general). . . not men want to get married. Women have a biological clock that is ticking and hormones drive the ship. . .its normal. Marriage is a traditional, time tested and without outside interference, path to a stable, loving and successful family.

Steve Barr, Hillsdale, USA

Wow! How bitter all these men sound. And how egocentric. They all seem to be absolutely certain that women are all vindictive creatures out to remove their testicles, make their life a living hell and then divorce them and take them to the cleaners. No wonder their single - I'd run a mile from them!

Micky T, Sydney, Australia

The parameters of this article are Caucasian, male and resident in UK. Now couple that with Brit chicks as the only option in the home comforts department, with all the related pitfalls. No wonder you guys are depressed. You really need to widen the search.

Andrew Milner, Karuizawa, Japan

Guyland is a utopia. Add to it, arguments, pmt, in-laws and eastenders, celibacy & castration... Congratulations, you are married!
Guys, make yourself happy. Don't worry about a making a woman happy, it can't be done! Why? Because they don't know what they want!

Pete, London, UK

I'd much rather go out with an older divorcee than someone older who had never made a commitment.

margot, london,

It's good to be whatever you want without the society telling you it's pathetic or wrong. Being a batchelor is just a different lifestyle, kind of like being a vegeterian. Guyland, Manland - is the grass really greener on the other side? or is it just different.

karolina, barcelona,

Ahh... would that I were a bachelor myself !!! Such freedom and liberation is good for a man.

Kash, London,

If you have good friends and are happy with yourself and your life why do you have to follow the crowd - what makes them right.
Being a batchelor is not a crime, especially given the soaring divorce rates.

Grant, Guildford, Surrey

In evolution, this makes sense. Not every guy can and should produce offspring. This is natural selection.
The problem is how to educate them. They need to think it was really their choice not to marry and have children. They need to believe they could if only they wanted to.
For some there is hope.

Dave, Aberdeen, Scotland

“serious commitment issues” – not when your fiancé says 4 times in the first 3 weeks of an engagement that I have to update my will to reflect “our new circumstances”.
“collection of porn” Don’t have any, the people who have asked for this have been 3 male married friends whose wives demanded it!

Nigel, Aylesbury, UK

Not all marriages turn out to make happier men, but seeing that as a reason to not bother is ignoring the millions that it does work for. Open your eyes, pay attention, meditate on the subject, before your get hitched. Anyone who thinks it's a free pass to bliss is a fool, bliss yes, free, no.

Ross Wilson, Salisbury, UK

Pity?I genuinely pity most of my married friends who feel trapped,bored and frustrated.The only men I know who are happily married are the laid back guys who need a woman for direction.Check the divorce stats and payouts awarded and its clear why marriage is not a smart idea for the alpha male.

Mike, central, hong kong

If you're female, middle-aged and single you're a 'strong, independent woman'. If you're male, middle-aged and single apparently you're a 'male spinster' and 'worrying'.

Most men in fact only get married to fit in with the crowd and please their parents. Not reasons to throw one's life away.

MD, Milton Keynes,

How about finding somone who's company you enjoy first?

I had a look at the internet dating sites recently and got the impression that half the women are lost in a "sex in the city" fantasy. Looking for Mr right and eternal love and all that. It didn't seem like a realistic hope to me.

bandeg, maidtone, kent

"...sex on tap..."?!
Not been married long then...

Graeme, London, UK

Being a single 34 yr old women-these comments look like single men who think they're sad stand-up comedians from the early 70's- the please sir take my wife variety. Guys we are just as independent as you, and having just as much fun. But we don't think it hurts to have a partner in crime.

Jessica, London, UK

The advantages of marriage -' you get your feet rubbed and sex on tap'. Cant see it im afraid. A. I dont want my feet rubbed, B. I can cook very well for myself, C I am quite capable of operating a washing machine and dishwasher and constant sex just becomes boring and routine for you as well as her

paul, paris,

I love all the bitter comments on here from men about being better off single than having had their lives ruined by divorce and vindictive wives. As if they had nothing to with these divorces, and they just happened to them. Men are such children sometimes, unable to take responsibility for anything

Coco, London,

Get sex on tap?! You haven't been married long mate have you? I calculated that even if I didn't data for 9 months a year, I would still have averaged more sex a year than when I was married...give it a few years, you have been warned!

Paul Bradbury, London,

I'm 30 have a daughter with my partner but I've made it clear that I have no intention of marrying anyone as all rights on the womans side. However I have vowed to myself, mainly for the good of my daughter, that I will never leave my partner in the lurch if we ever split.

We're V happy as we are.

Andy, Mcr, UK

Judging by some of the male reactions posted here a few do dislike women as a whole. Its a bit sad to read such cynical stuff. Says a lot about some of the dreadful people to choose from out there (both men and women),

But better alone than locked in an unhappy marriage with the wrong person.

Wendy, London, UK

It is actually very hard to live with a man. An adult who sulkily tells another adult to "stop nagging" is not an adult.
It is not nagging to ask someone if they wouldn't mind doing their share of the boring, unpaid, dreary cleaning of the mess to which you have both contributed in equal parts.

Annah, London, UK

Marriage isn't all footrubs and sex, it's a life time chained to somebody else and that is always going to chafe. Which is why fewer people are signing up for it, and more are seeking to get out of it. The incentives just don't add up.

Ellyssa, London,

All the men I've seen that get married look like crap after two years. Marriage is slow death for men.

Kate, New York City,

misses the point: women are using divorce with restraining orders to steal men's assets with impunity - that is the reason many men are reluctant to get married.

Henry M, Brighton, Great Britain

I'm 31 and usually single. Last year I got roped into a relationship. My best girlfriend saw me last night and said 'what happened to you, two years ago you 'were' smiling all the time.

Paul, Chiang Mai, Thailand

Being married is not all it is set up to be unless you have a true companion. Immature men are tied to sad marriages.. Being unhappily married is stressful for men as also is the mere thought of being independent. A psychologolicaly mature bachelor will live longer than these unfortunates

Eric, Birmingham, UK

I'm 55, single and deliriously happy thank you very much.
I come home when I feel like it, my brain has never been contaminated by soaps and I am perfectly capable of looking after myself.
I highly recommend the joy of silence and solitude at home. The last thing I need is a 'relationship'.

colin, london, england

The reason more men are taking this route through life is because it's a great lifestyle choice. As for married men living longer... well the 'indoor' cat lives longer too. But it's a furball with a broken spirit looking out on a world which it will never enjoy!!!

Rob D, London,

I thought I would never see this headline, since it is usually reserved for women.

irene, London,

stay single and see her at the weekends , man is not meant to be caged and I think deep down we all know that

Lucas kane , London , england

I don't know about single men but I am never getting married so I can become some man's unpaid house cleaner, cook and ego massage therapist.

Katie, Leeds,

I'm in my forties and single. I enjoy it for the most part. I would like to meet someone sometime. However, my job choice and the economy has forced me to move around quite a bit and unable to establish any stable relationships. So, for now, I'm on the catch and release program.

Brian, Milwaukee, USA

The woman-using quotes from Ben and Adam above make me happy to be a lesbian. I hope for the sake of both sexes that these attitudes are not typical of the single men in "Guyland".

R Jones, London, UK

It's still a man's world. Trust me!

Bill, London,

It's DIVORCED men who kill themselves in huge numbers, not bachelors. Being single may look bad at 38 but I bet it starts to look a hell of a lot better at 50 when all your male friends have had their lives wrecked by divorce.

Malcolm , London, UK

oh, please, spare us the shaming language. Bachelorhood is excellent, because one, you are able to "move around" a whole lot, which can help your career much more than being "tied" down in a single location because of relationship issues. Divorce and vindictive wives does not sound pleasant to me.

Jeff, Madison, USA

With the increase in percentage of female students in school, many guys are shunned,until women decide to move from career to relationship. By then many young men have gotten their hearts broken and feel marginalized because of lack of wealth in part they are taught to be economic success objects.

Michael, New Orleans, USA