I'm a husband, and I too dream of life without my wife...when I think of my ideal future, it doesn't include her.

Don't take that to mean that marriage is bad, but it is if you're with the wrong person. It's not marriage that's bad, it's the choice of your spouse.

Tom, San Diego, CA, USA

This article leads me to believe that women only care about is themselves. While I was trying to save my first marriage, all she cared about was her new boytoy and me footing the bill. She delayed the divorce as long as she could because that. No wonder divorce rates are high and men won't marry.

Richard, Oak Harbor, USA

Lying awake methodically working through methods of killing my oblivious, snoring spouse which would look accidental... it was at that moment divorce became inevitable. A decade later I am happier than I ever thought possible. Marriage rarely works, is unnatural and does much damage.

jennie, inverness, scotland

I honestly have no idea why people get married anymore. You spend years trying to find someone to tie yourself to like some sort of social liferaft then after the novelty has worn off you start waiting for them to die. Sometimes I really do dispair at the female species

Polly, Suffolk, UK

I'm sure many a married man has these thoughts about the their wife also. Perhaps it's just human nature. Surely the quick death of your spouse plus the insurance money just before separation is preferable to a messy, nasty divorce? There's such a fine line between love and hate.

NC, Devon, UK

Life is all about choices, look at your options and opportunities and then decide. Make the most of your life. Forget those old traditions of loyalty, fidelity and honesty, moral values offer little in the way of thrills and acquisition. Women of today eh? they drive the divorce rate up. Decadence.

CJP, Stoke on Trent, UK

A cartoon in the Age newspaper, by J Wright some years ago. At the funeral, the wife says," I`ll miss him so much. I think I`ll spend the insurance on fixing up the house, and then have a holiday." The man in the coffin sits up and says "Hello!" The wife says, "Trust you to spoil everything!"

margie, victoria, australia

Well isn't this lovely. I'm sure all the husbands in question will be delighted to hear how their wives fantasize about their deaths and dream of all the cool stuff they'll get to do once their bothersome husbands are gone.

J, Ellicott City, USA

When I started having fantasies about how much easier life woudl be as a grieving widow was when I finally knew it was time to leave. It's not "normal" but it's pretty common

Karen, London, UK

I don't think this kind of thinking is the sole preserve of the female species. I thought the same about my now ex wife prior to the separation. It is a shame when it comes to it but getting out can be the best thing ever. The freedom to chose ones destiny based on ones own thoughts and ideas!.

Matthew, Manchester, UK

Writing like this about the imagined demise of true love is excellent in its honesty. Men need to know what women really think of them and where their place is in a marriage. Thank God I don't have to live in your world anymore

David Hall, Bangkok, Thaialnd

When you are in an awful relationship where your spouse turns into a total nuisance, it is easier if he just dies. I had the same experience before, my ex will not just leave and let me be, I had to 'beg' him to let me go and never speak to me again and pretend that he never knew me.

Jo, Los Angeles, USA

I think it all has to do with male life expectancy. When you see so many widows, it is natural to imagine that the odds are that one day you wil be one, too. The writer does not imply it will be soon!

Christina, Athens, Greece

There is a saying: Everyone at some point has wished for the demise of a loved one. Perhaps the idea of love is just too overpowering? Let's face it; cooking for one is a heck of alot easier.

Lucille Turner, Cannes, france

Wow-I think everyone should go back and re-read! The woman never once mentioned murder, she just mentioned death. Maybe none of you have been thru a terrible marriage and if the thought of taking your own life doesn't hit you first them maybe you just "daydream" of it happening to the other.

Debra, Maple Grove, United States of America

Wow! not sure where to go with this one, bit of fun though.

sarah, Hunstanton,

Was this not tongue in cheek?
Some serious sense of humour failure going on, maybe it's a man thing.

Karen, Oldham, England

Gosh, men! I don't know, a bit of harmless daydreaming about a husband's demise and you suddenly lose your sense of humour - she didn't acutually say she was going to do the deed herself you know - just that it might be nice if someone else did.... (-;

Constance, Brussels, Belgium

I think the idea of death is a little bit extreme!

zz, San Diego, california

No wonder men don't want to get married any more!

David Space, London, UK

This is sick. A wife fantasises about murdering her husband, and then the comments are led by other women writing in saying "Me too!", as if they've been liberated. It's too much. We've put up with so much and now the Bridget Jones generation just wants to get us out of their hair. SELFISH SELFISH.

Joseph, London,

i know my friend had the same thoughts she dreamed of her husbands demise at the checkout in frescos ......we laughed as we imagined the scene " cleanup on isle two please "

sarah williams, bookham, uk

I am sorry to have to say that this is an appalling example of an abusive programming female in separation who deliberateley is alienating the children from their other parent (or carer) under a masquerade of dreams, dream homes, bungling play and other velvet - but no less severe - mental violence

Peter Tromp (Father Knowledge Centre Europe), Utrecht, Netherlands

Oh, thank God. I thought I was the only one who dreamed about spousal death and the great life afterwards...

Sarah, London,