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SOPHIE LEITCH never has any time to herself. Other girls her age are riding their bicycles, buying Sugababes CDs or fixing playdates after school.
But Sophie, 11, whose father has an inoperable brain tumour, can do none of these. When school ends, she goes straight home to look after her dad. “I have had to grow up very quickly,” she says. “Dad can’t walk properly and I have to make sure he’s got all he needs.”
Sophie, who lives in Worcester Park, Surrey, is one of more than 175,000 young carers in Britain. Were it not for the work of the Princess Royal Trust for Carers, one of two charities that will benefit from The Sunday Times Christmas Appeal, she would be just another young girl whose childhood seems to have ended prematurely. Since the appeal was launched last week, your generous donations already total £70,000.
The charity runs 133 centres all over Britain, including 83 young carers’ projects providing support for more than 15,000 children who are struggling to look after a parent with a physical or mental illness, addiction or disability.
Sophie is in regular contact with her local project, which arranges outings and holidays that allow her to meet other youngsters in similar situations. “We have all been ice skating and camping together, which was great,” she says. “Meeting up with them has helped me understand that there are others in the same situation.”
The centres are crucial if children such as Sophie are not to feel isolated. “I don’t talk about my home life at school,” she says. “I don’t think anyone in my class would understand.”
Many of the projects that support children such as Sophie are at risk of closure. Your donations could keep them open: £20,000 would keep one centre running for a year; £400,000 would equip them all with the resources to survive for up to three years.
The Leitch family has already suffered tragedy. An older sister died nine years ago of meningitis at the age of 11. Sophie’s life changed two years ago when her father Andrew collapsed on the anniversary of her sister’s death.
She was at home when he had a fit and was taken to hospital. A scan later revealed the tumour. A former railway worker, he is now living on benefits and his pension. “Each day I can’t just think about myself,” Sophie says.
“Before I go to school I have to make sure that my dad has his breakfast and takes his tablets. I set off just before 8am and have my breakfast when I get to school. While I’m away, carers from the council check on him twice a day. They will see he is comfortable but it’s up to me to talk to him and cheer him up.”
Her mother, Pauline, works full-time as an administrator, so once she gets in from school, Sophie is responsible for many of the domestic chores. “Sometimes we have had to go to hospital with him in the middle of the night. Once I even had to go straight to school from the ward.”
Sophie can still remember a time when her life was carefree.
“Before my dad got ill we would go to the cinema at weekends and he would take me swimming.”
Her father’s illness may cast a shadow over her life, but there are other difficulties in being a young carer that are less obvious. One is guilt.
As Rachael MacLeod, who manages the Sutton centre that helps Sophie, says: “Often children believe at a deep level their parents’ illness is their fault.”
Sophie is no exception: “I sometimes wonder if I made my dad ill by shouting or by being naughty, that he got ill because of stress,” she says.
Sophie, a talented mathematician, is part of a Brunel University group that does advanced coursework. She would like to study science at university but it is often hard for her to concentrate at home.
“There are days when I wish this wasn’t happening. Well, it happened and I need to get on with things,” she says.
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God bless The Times for publishing this so near Christmas & thank God for those in management who rightfully chose to include links to contribute.
Makes me wish we had the same here in the USA where there are thousands (if not millions) of junior care-givers seeing to the life essential needs of parents & grandparents.
The American media regularly portrays aged care-givers supporting grandchildren due to missing/incompetent/negligent parents but never touches on the children providing the care.
I, myself, was raised in a home where my Father (Parkinson's afflicted) literally disintegrated as I grew-up - with my Mother, sister and I struggling to provide care.
Luckily, once Dad died, I was an adult when Mum suffered a massive stroke - leaving me to care for her 24/7 whilst we survived on the remains of Dad's state pension (no flexible employment within walking distance and no public transport).
What we'd have given for a NHS and support such as carers.org.
Larry, Middletown, USA/NY
why din't you include the girl and her father's photo in this article? If you can, thank you!
sunflower, mILTON,
I look after my wife, who has Alzheimer's, so I know how much work, energy and emotion goes into caring for one you love. But I am a mature adult with time available to be patient. How much more difficult it must be for young people of Sophie's age to have to behave in so mature a fashion, and to have lost their childhood in caring for a loved one in their family.
I know how important support is for carers. So, please join me in supporting this essential charity, without whose support, young carers' lives would be so much harder.
Mike Taylor, Amersham, Bucks
How sad for that little girl to have to take on the responsibilities of an adult. Her childhood is essentially gone but she's bucked up and moving along, trudging on the best she knows how. She should be a role model for so many selfish adults and an inspiration for others who find themselves in similar situations.
Surfer, Hawaii,