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Diana, 10 years on: full coverage
Memorial services, unlike funerals, should be celebrations of a life.
Ten years after losing their mother while still barely teenagers, Prince William and Prince Harry are still struggling to have her remembered as they would like. Too many other people feel that they possess a part of her.
Ten years to the day after Diana, Princess of Wales, died in a Paris underpass, her younger son, Prince Harry, joined a senior Anglican bishop in appealing for her memory to be left in peace.
“She made us . . . happy,” he said at the memorial service at the Guards’ Chapel in Wellington Barracks, Central London.
“May this be the way that she is remembered.”
Dr Richard Chartres, the Bishop of London and a close friend of the late Princess, underlined the Prince’s point succinctly. “Let it end here,” he told the congregation of 500, condemning those who used Diana’s memory for scoring points.
Prince Harry was 12 when his mother died, and Prince William 14. Yesterday it was the 22-year-old Prince with the reputation for riotous behaviour who delivered the most eloquent testimony to the late Princess of Wales. Reading from a script he had written himself, Prince Harry took to the lectern in front of more than 30 members of the Royal Family, a whole clutch of Spencers and 400 other guests from Gordon Brown and Sir Elton John downwards, to return a son’s verdict on his mother.
He seemed to teeter momentarily at the precipice of emotion when he said: “To lose a parent so suddenly at such a young age, as others have experienced, is indescribably shocking and sad. It was an event which changed our lives forever, as it must have done for everyone who lost someone that night.”
And then he cut to the chase. “But what is far more important to us now, and into the future, is that we remember our mother as she would have wished to be remembered, as she was: fun-loving, generous, down-to-earth, entirely genuine.”
With his father, the Prince of Wales, and his brother, Prince William, listening in the front row of the light, bright, modern chapel, Harry concluded: “Put simply, she made us and so many other people happy. May this be the way that she is remembered.”
Harry, the younger son, has always been the more willing of the two to talk about his late mother; William, perhaps feeling a greater weight of gravitas and responsibility on his shoulders, has been the more reticent.
A crowd of several thousand who had gathered to watch the royal arrivals and departures and heard the service over loudspeakers, broke into spontaneous applause. Earlier they had enjoyed the sight of Harry standing with his brother and father at the chapel door, patting his pockets like a nervous bridegroom to make sure that he had remembered his speech.
It was a curious echo of Diana’s funeral, yet quite the other side of the coin. When Earl Spencer delivered an attack on the Royal Family and the media in what was supposed to be eulogy for his sister in Westminster Abbey ten years ago, the crowd listening outside broke into a burst of applause that rolled through the Great West Door and all the way up the Abbey aisle, stopping just short of the Queen.
Yesterday Earl Spencer simply sat among his family with no part to play.
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William and Harry, must surely be having a very hard time finding closure to their mothers death. For, their mother was loved by many. Don't you think it is time to let them have their peace and let them have peace as any one of us would like to have or have had. Let them have their memories of her as their mother and let Harry and William begin to heal their pain instead of constantly rehashing their pain. If they were reading this, I would tell them, to remember and live like she would have wanted them too, and forget and ignore everything else written about her, just remember her love, and treasure it always. Please allow them to move on instead of rehashing the death of their mother
Debbra, Montréal, Canada
Surely the royals know that their deaths will never strike such a chord with the public as Diana's has. Contrary to letting her rest in peace, Diana's example of useful public service should be remembered and promoted. This great woman also deserves to be commemorated in a larger than life-sized statute in a prominent public park.
Emma, Ottawa, Canada
No more, please.
John, Ascot, Berkshire, uk
For goodness sake, let it indeed end here. The almost medieval idolatrous intensity of those who see her as some sort of martyr does not get any easier, even after a decade of repeated claims to her supposed sainthood. I feel sorry for her sons and, indeed, sorry for Mr Al-Fayed for their respective losses but I am pretty clear that as far as Diana was concerned it is not the case that 'we lost an angel'.
Mark, Reading, UK
I do not agree with K Urban.I think the princes did the best memorial service I have ever seen. It was their tribute to their mother not the peoples princess. They invited all that they could, wheather you agree or not. There is no one stopping the ordinary people from having a memorial for her.
While, I agree with you in the war being without meaning, Princess Diana would have been proud that her son served her country.
Lets us all stop and let Princess Diana rest in peace.
eliza, new york, new york
The royals will be the royals (that's their fate) and the rest of us will be who we are - and perhaps never the twain shall meet (except for those caught in the middle).
Whether charwoman or Princess, servant or King - each person deserves to be known for who he or she was AND tried to be. And for good or bad, successful or unsuccessful, each person is a child of God.
I agree with the earlier poster. We here in the States are content with the legend of a beautiful and troubled Princess, who tried to help others. And at this time, for Diana, we generally have no interest in who said what to whom, royals or otherwise.
Jim, Arlington, VA
K Urban, I suspect her sons knew her better than "the people," who relied on media coverage for their perceptions of her - personally I never did get this "people's princess" thing, I just thought it was terribly sad for her sons, especially having to mourn in public and with 24/7 media attention and constant speculation about every aspect of her life, her death, etc. This was their memorial service for their mother - if "the people" respect her memory, even just as a human being, let alone "the people's princess," wouldn't they respect her sons' right to mourn and memorialise her in their own way?
Unfortunately, I agree with those who are saying that, much as it would be desirable to "let it end here," the media probably won't - her name still sells papers, programmes, etc.
Rose , Hawalli, Kuwait
I too would like her to be able to rest in peace but there always seems to be someone else writing this or that about her and while we are in one way fascinated - perhaps partly because she died so young - I have always been an admirer of Diana's - I do believe she should be allowed to rest in peace - I also wish people would stop trying to score points off her - the trouble is she cannot now defend herself.
Stephanie Torr, Barnstaple, England
"It seems the two princes, Harry in particular, have learnt very little about what the down to earth princess"was really about"? She was their mother! Of all the human beings on this earth they surely have more right to her memory than anyone else...And their wishes should be respected and that memory left to them and her close friends and family.
Emma, london, england
You are so wrong! The Bishop of London is/was NOT a friend of Diana, Princess of Wales. Chartres went to school with Prince Charles and is Charles' friend. As one of the trustees overseeing Diana's will, the bishop has come under criticism for not honoring Diana's wishes to leave certain items to her godchildren. Perhaps that is why his remarks at the Memorial were all over the place. He never really knew Diana at all!
Arthur, Fitchburg, MA, USA
Diana would be so proud of Harry & William.
I choked up watching Harry give his Eulogy.
I agree with my countryman & others who feel the Princess should be left to rest in peace, & her sons to live their lives. I will always remember her as the beautiful, kind, charitable lady that she was. I admired her greatly. May she smile down upon her sons.
Russell, Oxford NJ USA
Russell, Oxford, NJ USA
Harry looks more like his father every year.
Chris Jackson, London,
K Urban - do you really think you have a better handle on what Diana was about than her own sons? You knew her personally and very intimitely I take it ?
It obviously hasn't occurred to you that these boys lost more than anyone else the day Diana died. Certainly more than you and I did. They have more right than anyone to decide how she will be remembered 10 years after their tragic loss.
Edie, Sydney, Australia
I found the comment by K Urban staggering. He seems to think he knows more than the princes about what their mother would have wanted.
Diana wasn't the people's princess. We didn't own her. She was a young mother, who died tragically young, leaving two small boys behind. Yesterday's ceremony was organised by those two sons as a tribute to their late mother, and was attended by her family, friends and representatives of the charities she supported.
I'm sure that most people were sorry when she died, but I for one was horrified by the mass hysteria that seemed to take over, resulting in mountains of flowers outside Kensington Palace, and people who had never met the princess weeping and wailing as her coffin passed. The two princes showed much more dignity, young as they were.
I hope that the princes get their way now, and that the bickering between the pro and anti Diana factions can stop. After ten years, let her rest in peace.
Brenda Leonard, West Sussex,
Can we please move on now? Sure, go ahead and publish photos of Diana, I will always enjoy them, but I think we can pass on the "new revelations". There's really nothing new, just a rehashing of old gossip. We all miss her, none more so than her family. She belongs to them, not the world. Let's leave them be.
James, Milwaukee, Wisconsin, USA
You can say what you want about the late Princess, but this moving tribute from her sons was very touching. I think the world should grant them their request. They have the only opinon that matters.
Watts Taylor, Cincinnati, Ohio, USA
Of course, the best way to have left Diana in peace would have been no high-profile memorial service and the glare of the world's media returning to haunt this woman.
Some people just can't leave it alone.
Tim, Bangkok, Thailand
Peter Stothard, former Editor of The Times, recalls a discussion with Diana about memos, mistresses and the media.
IT IS THE DAMN MEDIA THAT WON'T LET IT END.
s K LIN, guangzhou, china
Much as I like the princes, it's not up to them or anybody else
to tell us how we should remember Diana.
We will never (for others' convenience) forget her the way
they would like us to do.
gs, London, UK
Sadly the media,Tabloids,Broadsheets,and magzines,still use Diana as a means of increasing sales. Individuals use her to get or maintain a high profile in the media. We poor fools play into this circus by purchasing the papers and magazines. Now it is the time to let her go, give her poor sons the peace and time to reflect on the happiness they once knew. God Bless them
Gloria Tattersall, Girne, North Cyprus
Strangely, perhaps, I have found the American public feels the same as the Princes, and would prefer to let her rest in peace. Oh, the fools' tabloids hawked at supermarket check-outs may have the gall to publish such rubbish, and even the U.S. media stoop too low at times. But the vast American public generally takes the view that the dead should be off-limits to the continual prying and snooping and exposes.
Bob Evans, Anaheim, California
There it was yesterday.
It seems that the two princes, Harry in particular, have learnt very very little about what the down to earth princess was really about.
She was the people's princess and yet the ordinary people were kept out of the ceremony yesterday.
Thus the warmth with which Diana treated everyday people was not there. Looking at the ceremony yesterday, the 'great' had, once again, hijacked the good for themselves.
In addition, the very humane Diana would never have allowed Harry to play macho soldiers in Iraq, in a war with no meaning, other than the bludgeoning of a previously vibrant nation for oil.
K Urban, London, UK
âLet it end hereâ
No chance.
Andrew Milner, Yokohama, Japan
Let this be an end to it. Diana rest in Peace. Please..................
Elizabeth, Maidstone, Kent, UK