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WHEN Iris Murdoch, one of the most famous novelists of her generation,
succumbed to Alzheimer’s, John Bayley, her husband, was praised for his care
and devotion. But the literary world has been stunned by a claim that he was
appalled by his wife’s writing and refused to read her books.
The accusation is made in a new memoir of Murdoch’s life which depicts Bayley
as a petulant and often deceptive man. The author, AN Wilson, claims that
although Bayley was elevated to “near sanctity” during Murdoch’s slow
decline into death, he now suspects that the former Oxford don was more akin
to a “screaming hate-filled child”.
London literary critics have been shocked by the vitriolic memoir. “It is the
most unpleasant and distasteful attack on a gentle and much-loved man,” said
one. “It’s quite abhorrent.”
Bayley and Murdoch married in 1956 and the first book she showed her husband
was The Bell, a study of homosexuality set in the west of England. According
to Wilson, Bayley hated the book and felt it was written by somebody who was
“completely uncongenial”.
Wilson writes: “He (Bayley) was appalled. He hated the whole tone of the book.
He felt it emanated from a mind which he could not like, let alone love.”
Bayley told Wilson that he felt betrayed by the way Murdoch had woven
intimate details of their life together into the narrative.
The don kept his deep misgivings to himself. According to Wilson, he told his
wife it was a “marvellous” book.
During a conversation that the two men subsequently had as they strolled
through the grounds of Magdalen College, Oxford, Bayley admitted that
because of his dismal view of The Bell he never read another of his wife’s
books.
In Wilson’s account of the conversation, he even recreates Bayley’s stutter.
Bayley said: “After that, whenever she finished a n-n-n-novel, she would
have it typed and then show it to me for comment.
“Sometimes, I’d tell Iris how much I’d enjoyed it and mention one or two
things I’d spotted in the typescript as especially good . . .
“I think she probably knows and the little f-f-fiction suits her.”
Wilson met Bayley in 1968 when he was interviewed by him for a place at New
College, Oxford. The author and journalist said Bayley and Murdoch became
like parents to him.
The couple had met 14 years earlier. They were to become one of the most
famous literary couples in the country.
Four decades later Murdoch was confirmed to be suffering from Alzheimer’s,
which Bayley called the “insidious fog”. He was dedicated in caring for his
wife, which meant sleepless nights and watching her slow deterioration. She
died in February 1999.
Bayley’s memoirs, which formed the basis of the 2001 film Iris, detailed his
wife’s descent into dementia. They also revealed his wife’s infidelities
during their 43-year marriage.
In Wilson’s book, Iris Murdoch As I Knew Her, he describes her as an intensely
private woman and argues that it is “inconceivable” that she would have
wanted intimate details of her life recounted for the public. He also
highlights the fact that Bayley fictionalised his sexual encounters with
other women in his memoirs. He says this “confusion of borders between truth
and falsehood” characterises Bayley’s life.
He also tries to debunk Bayley’s status as a selfless carer. He writes: “I
began to wonder whether inside this uncomplaining little leprechaun there
was a screaming hate-filled child.”
Murdoch and Bayley never had children, but Wilson reveals that when he spoke
to the author about the issue, she seemed devastated. He said she wept and
told him: “That was something which was not to be.” He portrays Bayley as
someone who “hated” children and who was jealous of anyone who took up
Murdoch’s time.
Bayley’s friends last week defended his reputation and questioned Wilson’s
motives for writing the book. Penelope Levy, a close family friend, said: “I
don’t think he (Bayley) was selfish. The way he looked after Iris was truly
miraculous. He would get little sleep and then he would wake up to find her
wandering around the house.
“He is a mischievous man and a wonderful character. He is a very private and
proud man, but I don’t think he is deceptive. I think it’s unlikely that he
had not read her books. He always seemed to know all about them.”
Other friends suggested Bayley may have been making mischief in his
conversation with Wilson and the author had mistakenly taken it seriously.
Levy said Wilson was in many ways similar to Bayley. “They were both in love
with Iris and they are both the same sort of people,” she said.
Wilson and Bayley were both unavailable for comment yesterday.
Additional reporting: Stuart Collier
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