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The widow of the ringleader of the July 7 suicide bombings still prays for her husband who, she believes, was a good man until he was brainwashed.
In her first interview since the attacks, Hasina Patel, who was married to Mohammad Sidique Khan for eight years, said that she had “full sympathy” with the bomb victims.
Speaking to Sky News, Ms Patel said she could not believe that the man she married could have been so “cold and calculated” to have carried out the attacks that killed 52 people and injured more than 700.
She also disclosed that police had told her recently that Khan, 32, had left her £400 to buy toys for their children, not knowing that she had miscarried on the morning of the bombings.
Ms Patel, 29, said: “I feel there was a good person in there and I just hope that, you know . . . yes, I just hope and I pray for him because I feel there was a good person in there but feel he was probably misled and brainwashed by the wrong people.”
In the in-depth conversation, to be broadcast today, Ms Patel said that she made desperate attempts to contact Khan on July 6, 2005, because she feared that she was losing their second child. The next morning, as he prepared to blow himself up on a Circle Line train, she was on her way to hospital to have her fears confirmed.
“At 9 o’clock I left the house, obviously not knowing what had happened,” Ms Patel said. “I had tried to phone him to say, ‘Are you going to come for the scan’, and I kept trying to phone him, leaving messages on the Wednesday saying ‘I am still bleeding, something’s up’, and again on Thursday, I rang every day – Friday, Saturday, Sunday.”
Numbed and upset from losing her child, Ms Patel said that she made no connection between her absent husband and the carnage in London.
“I went home, I went back to my own house and put the TV on and saw that the bombings had happened, it was just all over the news. I just couldn’t believe it. You normally hear of things like this in America but, you know, London. And I was more worried, I was thinking about my miscarriage and things.”
Sky declined to say whether Ms Patel had been paid for the 40-minute interview. It was agreed that she should wear the niqab, or full face veil, to help to protect her identity.
Ms Patel fell in love with Khan in 1997 when they were students at Leeds Metropolitan University. “He seemed sensible and polite, a good family man and he came from a good family.”
During the eight years that she spent with him, he transformed from a moderate young man to one who was interested in religious fundamentalism and then active jihad. But she insisted that she had no idea he was involved with extremists.
“We were trying to be good Muslims and, in our religion, we are told that men and women have to be segregated. I never sat in the same room with his friends, he never sat in the same room as my friends, so it is a completely different life.”
She felt that Khan was becoming distant and they had argued frequently. “I didn’t really know what was going on. I knew there was something, like he seemed . . . I thought maybe it is a phase, maybe he is depressed, he is always out with his friends, but I couldn’t put my finger on it.”
It was on the Tuesday after the July 7 attacks that she first learnt from police that her husband had been the ringleader. “I can’t believe people can do that kind of thing. How you can be so calculated and cold and not have any emotions, how can people do that?”
She felt that she had lost her identity and would always be associated with the bombings. Antiterrorist police arrested her in May and questioned her for seven days about the attacks before releasing her without charge. She said that, during the police interviews, she was shown a will written by Khan.
“They showed me a will that they had found which was from Sidique and there were messages on there to me and my daughter and family and in general to the public and funeral arrangements.
“In my section of the will it said, ‘I am really sorry for all the lies and deceit. I hope you can forgive me and I hope you can try to understand why I did what I did. You have tried to be a good wife but I have deceived you’ – that kind of message.
“There was a section for my daughter as well and my daughter’s section just said, ‘I really love you, as a father I really love you and I want the best for you and make sure you are a good person, be a good Muslim and look after your mummy’ – that kind of thing.
“There was a handwritten note and some money found with it and it said on the note that ‘I’m leaving you this money, I know it’s not a lot’. It was about £400 and it said, ‘I am leaving you this money to buy some toys for the children’.
“It was really sad that he put ‘children’ because he obviously thought that the pregnancy had gone ahead and didn’t know it would just be me and my daughter left alone.”
Those they have left behind
— The widow of Jermaine Lindsay, the 7/7 Piccadilly Line bomber, said she “totally abhorred” her husband’s actions. Samantha Lethwaite said that her Jamaican-born husband’s behaviour began to change when he visited mosques in London and Luton
— Tahira Tabassum, widow of the failed suicide bomber Omar Khan Sharif, was cleared in 2004 of failing to tell police about his plan to attack Tel Aviv. Sharif, who is thought to have drowned in the Mediterranean, was alleged to have told his wife of his plans in an e-mail. Ms Tabassum, who had three children with Sharif, said: “If in later life they ask questions, I can tell them I never knew what was going to happen, and I never wanted [their] father taken away”
— Ramzi Mohammed, a 21/7 plotter, left a suicide note for his wife and three children: “My family don’t cry, but rejoice in happiness and love. What I have done [is] for the sake of Allah for he loves those who fight in his sake”
— Hussein Osman, also part of the 21/7 plot, lived with his wife and three children in Stockwell, South London. A torn-up picture of his bride was found in his abandoned rucksack after his bomb failed to explode at Shepherd’s Bush
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It's Ok, he didn't have to worry about his family, as usual the taxpayer will look after them for the rest of their lives. Sounds as if she is well rid of him if he didn't care when she was having symptoms of miscarriage.
Christine in Hayes, Hayes, Middlesex, England
It's interesting that she says she knew he was involved in radicalism yet never suspected that it could lead to this... there is an article in Prospect about Khan, one of the first to interview his brother, who lives quietly as a taxi driver. Apparently Khan was ostracised from his family for marrying for love (this woman) and not his cousin, which was what was expected. There was a bit of an argument about this. This, I guess, meant that family influence was weaker as he broke away and did his own thing. He also started moving away from the traditional form of Islam that his family had practised.
So it's not as if he had an unhappy marriage that he was trying to escape from in taking up this new direction. It's interesting that she says they were arguing more. In the Prospect article the writer (sorry, forget the name) says that Khan was isolated in the Asian community which meant that the radical Islam he practised became like his new family to him.
Sunniva, Edinburgh, UK
The comments on this article are ignorant and reactionary. Because the perpetrator of this atrocity is dead people are desperate to blame his wife and family, caste them all as purely evil. This is not a deplorable interview, it is more necessary than ever to understand those who perpetrate such acts of violence, in order to prevent further occurences. Black and white goodies and baddies only exist in the movies.
Rob King , Norwich , UK
7/7 along with 9/11 was orchastrated by the government certain people were picked for and made to disappear so blame could be purported on to them, thier families non the wiser and more fool the public. wake up and smell the coffee people.
Gary , London, london
Can you see who it is yet.....?
kirk, Rotherham , UK
Let's try to understand her, please!
She is a victim too, she has my compassion and sympathy- she is not my enemy- she fell in love and married a man.That is not a crime, that is a blessing for her and her children.
I hope we can look after her and not be nasty to her because of her husband.
I want to do what the bombers wanted us not to do, to go to her people and say ," you are my friends and want to live in peace with us."
andrew, London, UK
I am so proud of my thoughtful, compassionate, insightful countrymen .....
Siobhan King, Hereford, UK
segregation between men & women is something introduced by chauvinist scholars. The early muslim society was not segregated in any way during or after the Prophets death. Women praye with men albeit behind them but without any barriers. They did not conceal their faces & in fact the Prophet did comment on a lady who came to him completely cloaked, sarcastically saying" i dont know whether im shaking hands with a woman's hand or a man's". Women & men r equal in the Quran, but in a society where women didnt work, just like most societies at that time, it was up to man to provide for everything, that was then not now. That so called Hijab is not even Islamic, ancient chauvinism unfortunately twisted verses & faked some sayings for its advantage. That suicide bomber might have been good but the minute he killed many people, innocent or not, he has become a loser. Lost his world & his faith. She is praying for a killer, better pray for those killed.
Sherif, Cairo,
muslims pray for anyone who dies asking God to forgive them their sins... and before you all start stressing, i do not support terrorism or this man's actions AT ALL. He was wrong and I believe anyone who commits these acts will go straight to Hell. Still, there's no harm in praying for forgiveness.
To the one who commented on her "rag" - the niqab is worn to protect a woman's modesty - it is in fact a symbol of self respect, not submission, as many of you seem to think. (I personally don't wear it though).
Islam isn't incompatible with the West, but the way people interpret it is. It's easy enough for Muslims to say they don't agree with terrorism or this type of behaviour, but the moment 4 "muslims" do it, everyone is going to make sweeping statements about all Muslims.
In line with this, I wonder if any of you have heard of Ahmadiyyat?? Perhaps you should research it, those Muslims are openly against violence in Islam.
SK, London,
Respect other faiths and you will understand the true meaning behind their practices. Segregation is good otherwise you hear stories about best friends in bed with your wives. Like Ms Patel, I condemn her husband's action and I hope she and her daughter grow up without fear and hatred from people. The comments from readers above are sensless and insensitive. I commend you for the honest interview and may god guide you towards the right path.
Anwer, London,
"in our religion, we are told that men and women have to be segregated. I never sat in the same room with his friends, he never sat in the same room as my friends"
HOW CAN ANYONE FOLLOW SUCH A RELIGION?
Anton Lyn, Guangzhou, China
Enoch was right! You have got to believe it when you see how some of 'these people' abuse the hospitality that this country has shown them.
Derek Clifton, Andover, Hampshire, England
Well, Germ, there you have it. That's what's wrong with people like you. You read one interview, and without any knowledge or foundation, you make a sweeping statement claiming to have uncovered "what's wrong with Islam." Maybe the real problem here is a lack of education, both for Muslims, and non-Muslims. I will never consider opinions from Australians educated now...(now there's a sweeping statement for you, Germ).
Omar, London, UK
The whole concept is wring with Islam.
Like democracy in political society, in religion it should be allowed to think independently. The world is so beautiful because it has so many diversities. Non believers, other religions etc called Kafer in ISLAM and they give calls for destruction for all non Islams which is rediculus.
In history also we see that Muslims never tolarated other religions and always DESTROYED CHURCHES, TEMPLES, MONASTERIES etc. etc. so on and so forth.
They always converted old churches, temples monasteries into mosques. Destroying the heritage, history and art works.
I have nothing against muslims. Only thing I wanted to say that they are following a FAKE, UNHEALTHY, cruel and BARBARIC FORM OF A BELIEVE that vows to DESROY THE WORLD.
Ravi, Toranto, Canada
Why does it make a difference to people whether she decided to segregate or not. Shes agreeing with the view her religion takes, and if she does so without affecting other people, then she does "deserve to live in the West."
Abbas Haji, London,
Germ, how exactly does segregation undermine an Islamic marriage and make it not âreal.â The husband and wife are not segregated from each other. And how many men in the world have had affairs with friends of their wives. You are suggesting that had there been segregation, then the bomber would not have done what he did, which is not true.
Abbas Haji, London,
I feel that seems like quite an honest interview, afterall, she has tried to protect her identity, and so it appears as though she now has nothing to gain. Why insult her beliefs; that only makes us as intolerant as the muslims who sympathise with Jihad and suicide bombing.
Jose Rech, London, UK
To me, this interview shows just how differently Mrs Patel's thinking is from her late husband's. Only this morning, on Sky News, I watched video footage of a young boy (pakistani and was about 10 years old) being taught to behead a hostage (the hostage was tied up and in the position of a lamb about to be slaughtered). This 10 year old was holding the knife and this 10year old was doing the beheading. Whatever your religion (and I don't have one as I feel I don't need a religion as such) ANY sensible person can see that what these people (the boy in the Video and these UK Bombers and ALL the others) are OF COURSE been/being BRAINWASHED. How it is done remains the mystery, and WHATEVER our own religious beliefs, we must NOT confuse that what they are doing HAS ANYTHING to do with being a Muslim, or Islam. THEY don't know that, but we do and should not lose focus of that fact. It is the people DOING the BRAINWASHING that we need to attack, get to, and rid the normal world of.
Jez, Kent,
I've got two observations.
Firstly, I cannot fail to sympathise with this woman's story. Sure, it might not be true, but then again, if you were a terrorist, it would be dangerous even to let family know what you were up to.
Secondly, look at the hostility in the comments. Action breeds reaction, and it's clear that we're dancing on a spiral towards something very unpleasant.
I can't help thinking that when Al Qaeda demands that 'westerners leave muslim lands', that this might not be a bad idea after all.
The corollary obviously is that muslims leave non muslim lands too. Perhaps the muslim community should decide whether it supports Al Qaeda or not in its aims. Fair's fair.
James, London,
Well in time you will forget him just look for another man who is suitable for life goes on > Mind terrorism has been on earth for long time during the the multiplication of Adam and Eve time .We should come closer people of all religions and preach harmony . Terror does not have religion ,west or east ,that is a human terminology We all are the citizen of the world boundaries are man made marked during the terrorism action. Good luck with her life.WE ASK GOD FOR FORGIVENESS
Suly, MUSCAT, sULTANATE OF oMAN
She must have had an idea what he up to.
She should also have been arrested for murder conspiracy - a serious offence.
"was a good man until he was brainwashed."
So was Hitler. At one point in his life, he was an OK chap.
Joe, Manchester,
I actually don't know why Muslims choose to live in secular countries. The whole structure of such a society is at odds with their fundamental beliefs and culture. Pluralism is one thing, but people unwilling to embrace a country's society only end up forming ghetos and secret societies. Jihad's think they can change the world thru violence, it's purely medievel and symtomatic of a lack of civilisation within their own societies. Muslim women, straight out of a middle eastern culture, won't ask questions, they accept things, it's what they are taught. I'm British but live in the Middle East. Their men can have 4 wives & frequently do, there's no comparision with the western mind-set. In the dangerous days we live in, what religion you profess does have an impact on society and if Muslims in the UK don't do something about the extremism within their own communities it may not be long before there's a crack down via immigration policies or something else.
kelly , abu dhabi, abu dhabi
more sad news, I feel for the wives and children they left behind. It seems their hair brained schemes forgot to consider the most important people in their lives, namely their family.
as for people trying to blame this on segregation, there are plenty of non muslims in difficult marriages where the two parties are not communicating well. Its simply a fact of married life.
Akram, London,
"was a good man until he was brainwashed"
That seems quite accurate: Brainwashed since birth...
Dave, London, UK
I'd be inclined to say this. Ignorance - THIS is the problem with most people in society today.
Islam does not forbid men and women to sit in the same room. The issue here is one of culture and the divide between conservatism and ultra-conservatism - religion as nothing to do with it. Unfortunately, Ms Patel makes the common mistake (and this is down to what she's been taught by ridiculous people) of bringing together relgious edicts and cultural systems.
A Grant - the comment you make about "claiming" a miscarriage is completely and utterly disgusting. There is absolutely no need for you to suggest that Ms Patel would lie about such a thing and if she is, it is entirely on her conscience. Assuming such things is both reckless and dangerous.
Charles Wetherby - anybody would pray for a lost love. The "Virgin Incentive" is a deplorable practice used by extremists to lure disillusioned individuals into a state of bewilderment. It is brainwashing of epic proportions.
Eshaan Akbar, London, England
So when she couln't get hold of him , where did she think he was ?
Funny how so many of these people live apart, like the Indian wife who had a baby weeks before the husband was arrested saying he hasn't even seen the baby !!!
I suppose marriage gives the terrorist an acceptable image.
Maggie Millington, Brittany, France
you have to be very niave to believe that she did not know what her husband was doing. she could have saved lives by going to the police.
vik, london,
Why is it that because of the actions of this womanâs husband you all assume she was involved? Its a bold statement to say a wife must know everything her husband does...do you guys know everything your husbands do? is that why so many of you find out your husband has been cheating on you after a number of years?
I donât think the reason for her husband doing what he did was just because of the segregation. If someone is determined to do so something they will. Some of the comments so far have been made by people who obviously lack intelligent...Start thinking a little people!!!
John Brown, London, UK
Nice to see so much sympathy for the poor woman from those who have read the article.
I'm amazed at all the little tidbits people know about Islam and muslims (virgins in paradise etc) and yet they don't seem to know or even try to understand basic principles.
I guess that wouldn't make for smart arse bitchy comments though, would it.
S Cohen, London, UK
How do we know that's her in the picture? It could be Rolf Harris under there and we'd be none the wiser.
Richard Martin, Sheffield,
I am disappointed by the comments that people have put. This woman has been through an awful time, it was not her it was her husband. I have a lot of sympathy for her, how many of us could influence our partners, or can even say we 100% know what our partners are up to. No one deserves to lose a child. Her husband was to blame not her, and I think this interview is useful as it shows the extent of the wreckage that such people like her husband wreck on so many people's lives.
e, london,
I'm concerned that all of these comments are all very anti-Mrs Patel and Islam itself, perhaps stemming from our justified anger against the acts her husband committed. We cannot possibly know what she was aware of - certainly no more than the police having interviewed her for 7 days - and the callousness of remarks concerning her miscarriage are themselves "deplorable".
We should consider that it is maybe all this reactionary behaviour on the part of non-Muslims that is hindering the sort of ties which we should be looking to foster.
Richard, London,
I was born in uk and schooled to be a christian gent, and like many others in the 60's became somewhat subversive but kept on quietly answering passport religious question boxes saying yep I'm C of E i.e. a christian with a small 'c' as it was then fashionable to say. I didn't get Confirmed although I went on Retreats to Glastonbury to get out of school. I dropped Christianity altogether recently, and God. I freed myself of fear of blasphemy. I kicked away the crutch of silent prayer. I am truly pissed off with Abraham's bullets whether they have Jesus' mournful face, Mohommed's invisible signature or Zion's song of hatred. My religion, apart from rugger, is nature. I honestly believe that just supposing Nature had a voice and one wish, that it would be for every last man woman and child to be sent to another part of the Universe. The Almighty is Unnatural and Unscientific, and every effort should be made in our schools and cultures to promote secularism.
Simon Fuller, Capetown, South Africa
I'm stunned at how harsh the posted comments are. Is there really no sympathy for a woman who lost her second child and her husband on the same day? From what I read, this woman is guilty of nothing. Don't make the mistake of presuming guilt by association!
A Smith, London, UK
Of course this assumes the authorised version of 7 July 2005 is kosher. Keep in mind the similarities between 11 September 2001 and the London bombings. There were training exercises on the same day that essentially mirrored the actual attacks. Ask yourselves, "What are the odds?â
Andrew Milner, Yokohama, Kanagawa
".......I pray for him because I feel there was a good person in there but feel he was probably misled and brainwashed by the wrong people.â
Here lies the crux. The evil preachers. Why cannot we have zero tolerance in the law and remove these people, not just from our society, but from our country as well.
Edward O'Brien, Dursley, UK
Islam and the west do not mix....
r bradly, wallington,
To Hasina Patel
If I had believed in God - or Allah - I would have reasoned the miscarriage was a result of his will not to have any more Sidique Khan's brought forth in this world.
However, knowing religion is mental junk, I know it was a result of cicumstance or other biological reasons.
If you really wish to distance yourself from Sidique, please permanently remove that rag from your face.
Wearing it is fulfilling his wish for a submissive wife, abiding, and accepting his right to "do as he pleased" with no questions asked.
Praying for him - a despicable mass murderer - is a waste of time.
If there were an Allah, no prayer could save him.
Gerald B., Aarhus, Denmark
" Patel, 29, said: âI feel there was a good person in there and I just hope that, you know . . ."
How idiotic could she be to think there was any good in a MASS MURDERER. He was EVIL to the core. I hope he rots in HELL. I hope his child does not inherit his wickedness.
Faqi, London, UK
We should remember that in our history of Christianity we did a lot of evil things in the name of our god. We were just as brainwashed when we hung witches and started the crusades.
Muslim's do believe strongly in the Koran but it is easy to corrupt the teachings into the extremist views and it is only the Muslim Imam's that can come out and state publicly that the extremist teachings is wrong.
Joseph Kellie, Edinburgh, Scotland
It is difficult to believe her version of the story. I think, she had known what's cooking for some time and the price for it was her miscarriage, as a response to her living under stress of her husband involvment in jihadism for quite a time. It should be included into fairy tales of " 1000 and one nights"!
Jurek, Hants, UK
A deplorable interview
Joaquim, Porto,
Well there you have it. That's what's wrong with Islam. Segregation. How many men in the world are corrected by their women when their behaviour is out of hand? God (or Allah) created man and woman. If you segregate the sexes, there is no balance in life. Can't see the point of a union like that. I will never consider Islamic marriages real now.
Germ, melbourne, Australia
You say that "she revealed that she misscarried". Should that not be "claims".
A Grant, Leicester,
Well - she's a strange one - she's praying for him and he's up there having a fine time with lots of virgins !!
Charles Wetherby, Buenos Aires, Argentina