James Hider in Jerusalem
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As her father disconnects the plastic tube from her throat, six-year-old Maria Aman’s face contorts as though she has been pushed through an air-lock in space. Hamdi, her father, has 50 seconds to clean her breathing tube before she runs out of air.
Paralysed from the neck down, Maria cannot breathe without a special ventilator. She has gasped her way through this ritual every morning for more than a year since the tragedy that wiped out most of her family and left her quadriplegic.
Now her fate rests with the Israeli Supreme Court, which will decide next month whether she should be deported from Israel. Her struggle is a compelling case of how even the worst aspects of the conflict can bring people together – and how bureaucracy and politics can tear them apart.
It began in May last year, when her uncle invited the family out to test-drive his new car in their native Gaza. They did not know that the car ahead contained Muhammad Dahdouh, a senior Islamic Jihad leader visiting his wife, who had given birth in hospital.
Suddenly the family heard the roar of an Israeli aircraft, and a missile slammed into the wanted man’s car, killing him. Maria’s mother, seven-year-old brother, uncle and grandmother also died in the fireball. Maria’s spinal cord was severed and her lungs were punctured by shrapnel.
The Israeli Army, learning of the horrific fallout of the attack, brought her to a Tel Aviv hospital for emergency treatment, then to the Alin specialist rehabilitation clinic in Jerusalem, where she has received the best treatment in the Middle East, paid for by the Israeli Ministry of Defence.
Doctors say that Maria will never walk again and will be on a respirator for life. There is no more rehabilitation they can do. The Ministry of Defence wrote to Mr Aman last month and informed him that it was preparing to move him and his daughter – who do not have residency permits in Israel – to a hospital in Ramallah.
Mr Aman, 30, says that the Abu Raya hospital in the West Bank city lacks the necessary facilities and experienced staff to keep his daughter alive. The ministry informed him that to help him out it would provide £300 a month towards his rent for a year. “I don’t think this is justice. This is a joke,” Mr Aman said yesterday.
“Basically, sending her to Ramallah is sending her to hell,” said Dalia Beker, aide to an Arab Israeli MP who has championed the Amans’ cause. The Supreme Court has postponed any final decision until it meets again on September 25.
Mr Aman, who worked as a construction worker and taxi driver in Gaza City, and who was unable to visit his daughter for seven months until he received the right paperwork, said that the least the ministry could do would be to provide his daughter with the basics. An electronic wheelchair, specialised bed, electronic respirator and battery charger would cost at least £15,000 – only slightly more expensive than the Hellfire missile that inflicted so much tragedy on his family.
“I haven’t even asked for any compensation for the death of my mother, wife and son,” he said. “This is the only place that can treat people like Maria. I don’t know what I’ll do if they tell us to leave.” Mr Aman now plays father and mother to Maria, cleaning her respirator, feeding and showering her, combing her long frizzy hair, applying skin cream and lip gloss and putting gold studs in her ears.
“I’m just asking to look after Maria and stay here. This is what I’ll dedicate the rest of my life to,” Mr Aman said. “I don’t feel hate. As a believer, I believe this is what God meant to happen and I have to deal with it.”
The children’s wards of Alin hospital – where Mr Aman and his son Muaman, 4, also have a private room – show what can happen when Israelis and Palestinians are brought together in adversity. Wherever Mr Aman goes, a small, sad-eyed Israeli boy, Toma, goes with him, clinging to the Palestinian like a limpet. “His father was killed in a car crash and his brother was crippled,” said Mr Aman. “Now he looks at me like a father.”
To keep his paralysed daughter from growing up in hatred, Mr Aman told her that she had been hurt in a car crash. When she heard from the television that they had been hit by a missile, he did not tell her that it was fired by the same Israel that now cares for her. Nor has he told her that she will not walk again.
“She’s starting to realise what happened,” he said. “I tell her, ‘Don’t forget who’s looking after you. The doctors and nurses, your friends are Jewish. Not all of them are bad. I don’t want her to grow up full of hatred.”
Minimal care
£69 per head of population spent by Palestinian Health Ministry
2,167 doctors in Palestinian territories, one for every 1,500 people
52 basic drugs recorded as out of stock at Palestinian primary healthcare centres last year
Sources: WHO, Palestinian Health Ministry
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Sir, Shame on the war-mongers & who profit from testing out these weapons.
SC, London, United Kingdom
I suggest you look at the history, say WW2 or the last conflict with Argentina, and show an example of a more benevolent behavior by your countries. Any ideas ? Maybe the carpet bombing with incineration bombs of the defeated Germany will do the job ? Uh ? 700,000 people cooked: children, women, old people... Maybe you enjoyed the bombing of Yugoslavia? Well, that was a group punishment of an innocent civil population. Did you speak up, did you protest ?
We are fighting for our survival and our war is not with Palestinians but with the powerful Arab world using them as proxies. I am sure you will feel teeth of Muslims on your own skin in the nearest future if you did not get it already in London, Madrid or Bombay. Once it hits you, please write to the Times and share with us you experience.
Shame on you.
Arie, Tel-Aviv, Israel
Israel has never thought much of Palestinian children believing perhaps that each one of them is a potential terrorist. Even though psychologists have concluded that an individual child (or puppy) in distress causes our hearts to flutter (remember Kicholas Kristofâs incendiary article âSave the Darfur Puppyâ May 10 2007), this has never been true for Palestinian children. As for Palestinian poster children, there have been many, the most notable being 10-year-old Huda Ghalia seen running wildly along a Gaza beach crying "father, father, father" and then falling weeping beside his body after an Israeli missile strike in June 2006; Iman Al Hams shot in the head on her way to school in Gaza, a fatality of an over zealous IDF soldier and of course Mohammed al-Dura, caught up in the crossfire and succumbing on film. The record speaks for itself. So it should come as no surprise if the Israeli Court Rules decides against the Aman family. Even if she was provided with the wheelchair and special ventilator, she might just as well be dead given the fuel shortages and electricity cuts. O Israel, has your heart turned to stone?
Gracie_fr, Paris, France
imagine if this had happened to the other side. can the pilot of the aircraft attacked look in to Maria's eyes & see the results of his collective punishment hatred done?
bottom line peace is the only solution to this bloody conflict.
Tarek Ibrahiem, Jerusalem, Israel
why are there no videos of this poor girl i saw a report on national news but cant find it anywhere on the net if people can see her struggle they can donate more
rai, bedford, uk
To Ehad and Ami ..
Enemy, enemy?? Do you really expect us to believe that there is any equivalence between the third most powerful and viciously effective army in the world and a population that has been under their oppressive boot heel for almost 60 years?? You must be crazy to think so..
It was not Hamas who fired the missile into a car in a civilian area in just another targeted extrajudicial murder, so don't try and claim the moral high ground for the zionist state, or try and equate the generations of oppression, killings, jailings, destruction of houses etc etc, with anything that the Palestinian victims of zionism can possibly do to the oppressors.
Richard, MElbourne,
I agree. Though Hamas is a terrorist organisation, the palestinan populus shouldn't be punished for both governments grave mistakes. This is happening everyday in countries under US invasion (such as afghanistan and iraq), innocent children are being killed or gravely injured for a lost cause and so corrupt governments can fullfill their own needs and make money. If the Israel deceids to keep Maria and her father in Israel and offer her the proper care, they would be leagues above the US, who wouldn't even offer that sort of care to a poor US citizen. It's nice to see Israel taking responsibility, and it would be great to go that little furthur.
A. James, Manchester, UK
I think the Israeli government owe this tragic innocent
family a great debt and the least they could do is to
compensate them by letting them stay and provide free
care for the girl. The Israelis have the reputation of
ruthlessness towards the Palestinians, now is the
chance to show some compassion to this family.
gs, London, UK
Israel would benefit from a goodwill gesture and the little girl needs the help. On compassionate grounds, they should help her.
eh, Ottawa, Canada
Is there any way to send money to help this family?
Gigi, London,
Isn't it more than fair that the country that caused her severe damages takes care of her rehabilitation as well as it should pay compensation for killing large parts of her innocent family? Isn't this an example of state terrorism, killing several innocent women and children?
Fredrik Lake, Stockholm,
Yes, a lack of drugs, but there is no a lack of weapons. It is a matter of priorities you see.
Tom Lardeen, Ottawa, Canada
We Americans are at fault for sponsoring the moral Monster Israel has become
7Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. 8The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature[a]will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. 9Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. 10Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.
Paul, Galatia, Texas
first of all since israelis wiped out most of her family , they must be responsible for her for the most of her life .
then
to you Mr. Ehad
palestinians don not need to learn compassion from israel when compassion means killing innocent people and lifting paralysed children suffering during the rest of thier life .
mind you , this is not an isolated instance of israelis brutality but they are savagely killing innocent palestinians .
so how can you label this as compassion ?
hassan , tabuk, saudia arbaia
i would like to tell my brother in humanity ehad hamm why israel every day is killing childern then they want to show mercy towards a child who will continue all her life paralysed because of jewish brutality i have read bible which instigate the jewish nation to kill the goyeem which means the others who have no right to live with the jewish nation the belief of extermination the others i know that this not from real bible wich had been sent from god
ahmed amir , cairoo, egypt
Since the Israelis are responsible for her "collateral"
damage they should be responsible for her for the rest of her life.It's a simple case of you broke it, you bought it. It's the right thing to do.
Bruce L. Northwood, Washington, D.C., USA
I was born Jewish, and though I too was also taught forgiveness, I learned that not everyone deserves to be forgiven. The Hamas Palestinian leadership have brought nothing but hardship and misery on their own people and they deserve no forgiveness. They should learn compassion from Israel in the way that country treats the injured daughter of their enemy (not many countries would care for little Maria as she has been treated in Israel). I have no doubt that the Israel Supreme Court will permit the little girl to stay.
Ehad Haam, Ra'anana, ISRAEL
I applaud the attitude of the girl's father, Hamdi. I applaud the Israelis who helped the injured Palestinian girl and I will applaud the first Palestinians who will offer help to the victims of their attacks on Israeli civilians.
Ami Levartovsky, Sydney, Australia
"Now her fate rests with the Israeli Supreme Court, which will decide next month whether she should be deported from Israel."
Have we gone mad?
Why does her fate rest with a court of law? How does any sane, compassionate person come to such a decision? May I ask the lawyers, law-makers, judges and others who seem to be slaves to such a legalistic attitude, what they would do if this was their daughter?
How could any of these people face whatever God they believe in, should they send her away to suffer and to die?
Francis O'Hara, Nice, France
While reading this story, my eyes began filling tears and I had to read the lines again and again, for, I had difficulty to remember what line I have read or I missed. I believe the feelings of Mr. James Hider were totally shattered while writing this story and no doubt it took him lots of nerves and courage to complete it. I ask myself many questions about why do we kill other human beings and what is wrong with our society, but no answers are available!? Searching for other reasons and trying to pinpoint the causes from years studying at universities, I find that injustices committed around the world have become the core of wars and hatred among us all.
I was born a devout catholic and forgiveness is what we ought to do and practise and pray so that God may give us the courage to do that.
Bernie Haddad, Calgary, Alberta, Canada